But if [feelings are] all negative — agitated, angry, frustrated, grumpy, irritated, etc. — you need to figure out where those feelings stem from.
Sexual frustration is often temporary, so a quick [solo] release can help curb the immediate desire for sex. It may also lead to a better sexual connection in the future.

It’s Time to Solve All That Sexual Frustration You’re Feeling

Symptoms of sexual frustration are not the end-all be-all, as O’Reilly says sometimes it’s about resetting expectations. “Feelings are not permanent states of being,” she says. “They’re temporary experiences and you can make attitudinal and behavioral adjustments to change the way you feel.”

Links of Note

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What to know about managing sexual frustration

There are no known health conditions associated with sexual frustration

Sexual Frustration Is Normal — Here’s How to Handle It

“Sometimes what folks think is sexual frustration is actually a lack of satisfaction with something else going on in their lives,” says urologist and sexual health expert Dr. Jennifer Berman, co-host of daytime talk show “The Doctors.”

How To Manage Sexual Frustration

Try touching yourself all over your body, particularly the areas your hands wouldn’t normally go. It’s common for us to focus on stimulating our genitals and neglect our other endogenous zones, such as our lips, neck and ears. Next time, try running your fingertips through your hair and across your scalp or cup your hands around your neck for a gentle and comforting caress.